Thursday, October 06, 2005


Shelly has asked me to post whenever she's not available to. She's unavailable at the moment, and I apologize for not posting sooner. I never know what to say other than uphold the family in prayer. If Shelly could ask anything I am sure it would be to pray. I know you are. I know what it is like to feel helpless and not know what to do other than pray. Maybe just pray for strength (physically, mentally, and emotionally) and peace. I am not sure what else to say.


Anonymous Tessa & Denver said...

To Shelly's loved ones,

I just spoke with Ben and want to pass along the request to pray for Shelly. Her needs are too great to mention here, but I can assure you that she is being tried by fire.

I don't know what else I can say to get this word out...Please Pray.

In God's Peace,
Tessa & Denver

6:25 PM  
Anonymous Jane R. said...

Shelly's friends:

I just had a phone call from Tessa. As stated above, Shelly does need prayer right this moment. I would also like to add that the entire family is barely hanging on at this point. I spent the greater part of the week with Ben and Sophie and I have seen just how weak they both are.

As Tessa stated, Shelly IS being tried by fire...and this includes Ben and Sophie as well. I will be returning to Joplin on Sunday to help in whatever way I can. I know that Ben is on the edge of breaking down and physically, I am not sure how much more Sophie can handle.

While Shelly needs the most prayer right now, please do not forget to pray for Ben and Sophie (Alex, also) as well. God has to give this family a break...He just has to do it.

Jane, Ellie, and Rush

6:39 PM  
Anonymous Tessa & Denver said...

To Shelly's loved ones,

It is shortly after 2a.m. here in Boston and Jane asked if I would leave a note to update you all as we don't know how to reach Shelly's friend, Ria.

Ben called around midnight to update on how they are doing. His voice lacked hope, he almost sounded as if he had given up on Shelly. I called Jane, spoke to her about my concerns and she placed a call to Sophie.

Jane then called me back and stated that Sophie sounded horrible and also lacked hope. Jane also said to me that Sophie commented that they feel like they are watching Shelly slip away from them.

After talking with Jane and much prayer, we have decided to file a flight plan in the morning to come to Joplin. Jane and Rush are already on the road to Joplin. We both feel that this family is going to fall apart without some sort of intervention from God and we don't know how else to help, other than to be there.

How can you help? Thoughts and prayers right now are needed most. Also, I know if you live in the Joplin area, you are probably already doing things at the house. If so, I want to say thank you. It is hard to help from this far away, which is another reason we need to be there.

Ben and Sophie need help. Shelly needs us. They all need prayer.

I will try to update here in the comment section as time allows. If anyone knows how to get in touch with Ria, please do so as that way she can post on the main page.

In God's Peace,
Tessa & Denver

1:36 AM  
Blogger ria said...

Jane and Tessa,
Thank you for the updates. I will post as much as I can, but there just seems to not be enough words. Sophie and I were talking about it earlier and were trying to think of something to post together. I will do my best.
If you need to get intouch with me my email is:
Again, thank you for the updates and the urge to pray. That is all we can do right now.

9:18 AM  
Anonymous Lauren said...


I know Alex is with you now and I am praying that helps to ease your load. He loves you so much, it is very clear thru the past few weeks just how much he does love you.

You Dad says you can hear us where you are and I know someone will read this for I want to tell you this...I LOVE YOU, SHELLFISH. Hang on, you can do this, I know you can. Don't make me sing to you, because you know I will!! Leeeeeannnnn Onnnnn Meeeeee whennnn you're not stroooongggg....shall I continue? I didn't think so!

I miss you, Shellfish.


P.S Thank you to the entire family of Shellfish for keeping me in the loop, it means so much to me.

P.P.S Alex, kiss her for me, please.

10:11 AM  
Anonymous Rob @ FBC-Cambridge said...

To the entire family,

My sympathy is not enough at this point, but it is the only way to express how much love I have for your family, past and present.

There isn't a day that goes by that you aren't in our prayers or that someone hasn't called to ask for a prayer chain update. The news of today has shaken us all and left us asking why, why now? I am just so sorry.

Denver is keeping me in the communications loop, I will be there when you need me. Please know that you are loved by so many.

Rob @ FBC

4:15 PM  
Anonymous Douglas and Kate said...

Ben and Family,

As the news has circulated the prayer chain last evening and today, it is with great upset that I type this note.

I don't want to tell you that I understand, because I don't. I don't want to tell you that I know how you are feeling, because I don't. I don't want to tell you to hang in there, it will get better, because time has proven that it doesn't get better.

What I do want to tell you is that you are very loved, because you are, all of you are being held in love and prayer right now. Our hearts are broken at the mere thought of what you are facing today.

They say God doesn't give us more than we can handle along with Him...but with this news, I am sure you are starting to doubt the truth in that. I just want to tell you that you are not alone, not now, not ever. Please don't doubt that.

We will be here every step of the way, no matter what that means.

With love,
Douglas and Kate

12:17 PM  
Anonymous Lauren said...

Thank you...Thank you for another chance, for giving one more day, thank you.

For one more moment, one more breath, and one more trial, thank you.

For this miracle of miracles, thank you...God.


11:58 PM  
Anonymous Kelli said...

To All Shelly's Loved Ones,

Although I have never spoken to Shelly I did become very close to Shar after Sara's passing. In those few short months Shar brought me into her life and through her I came to know the family. I have been following the blog faithfully everyday as has my partner Vanessa. Vanessa and Shelly have shared the occasional email. I guess what I'm trying to get to is that we are very very scared. We have not a clue as to what is going on, but are praying for all of you. Shelly has Vanessa's email address and mine is if someone has a chance to let us know what is going on and if there is anything we can do to help. In the meantime you are all in our constent thoughts...Love Kelli

3:25 PM  
Anonymous Lauren said...


To Shelly's extended friends and family:

I spoke with Alex a bit ago. He called me and for a moment, I was unable to even understand what he was saying. His tears prevented any words from flowing from his mouth, the only sounds I could hear were the sounds of his weeping at what he needed to share with me.

He called to beg for prayers for Shelly. She is at a point that we are unable to help her in any form, other than to pray for God's will, whatever that is. She is loved, so very loved, and is being held by family as she and God decide what to do about her future.

I am asking you all to pray for her, not only for her, but for the entire family. They are all running on fumes now and I know that their hearts are broken. Please pray for the whole family.

Praying in CO,

P.S: Kelli, I read your comment above mine and would like to speak with you, if no one else has yet. I know they have all been very busy, but I can't imagine the pain both your partner and yourself are facing in not knowing what is happening. Shelly has very strict wishes, but I feel that she would want someone in your position to know.

5:03 PM  
Anonymous Kelli said...

Thanks for your update Lauren. You can reach me at . If you drop me a line I can give you our phone number. I'm sure you understand when I say I don't wish to have our number diplayed on-line. Hope to hear from you soon and please know that Shelly,Ben and Sophie are all in our prayers. Our thoughts are with you all. Kelli and Vanessa

6:21 PM  
Anonymous Tessa & Denver said...

To Shelly's loved ones,

I echo Lauren's words. Please pray. Denver and I made it here late this afternoon. Things are not well, not well at all. I am sitting with the family now, we are camped out here, trying to support, trying to carry a load that none of us can carry for them.

Ben continues to show wear, this is so hard for him. Sophie isn't well herself, but is not coping well emotionally, either. Alex is unable to get here at this point and I know it is killing him. I heard it in his voice this evening when he called with hopes of change.

Ben has said many times this evening that God and Shelly are at war right now. It is my constant prayer that God lets Shelly win this round. Everyone here is losing hope of that, but it remains our prayer.

If you do know what is going on here, please know that I am being very honest with you when I say this is the worst it has ever been. Each time it has been bad, we have been here. Each time, I have been able to see some light at the end of the tunnel, some hope of things changing. There is no hope left for any of us right now.

Please, please pray. God, please hear those prayers, around the world. Most of all, God, please honor those same prayers.

In God's Peace,
Tessa & Denver

11:24 PM  
Anonymous Tessa & Denver said...

To Shelly's loved ones,

While the internet access is limited here, I did want to take a moment to let you know the basics.

Yesterday marked one year since Shar was called home. While none of us focused on the date, she was very near our hearts and a constant in our thoughts as we faced what is going on here. I know that I can speak for all those here right now when I say that more prayers were uttered to Shar yesterday than to God, Himself. We know she can feel our love and hear our prayers. If I know Shar, she is pulling some strings right now to help us. I pray so.

Shelly is still deep in the trenches of the war that Ben speaks of. Our prayers have changed slightly, we are no longer praying for God to let Shelly win this round, but rather for Him to force her to lose. This seems to be the only way that she will be able to get the peace she needs.

The family continues to hang on to whatever they can. Ben finally listened to us and found a few hours of sleep. Sophie has taken our advice and found a way to take some breathing room. We continue to grow in numbers and stand by and wait. Jane and Rush, Barb and Andy, Kathy and Steve, Rob and Kirk, and Denver and I continue to pray around the clock as we camp out here.

Praying...but it doesn't seem to be enough right now.

In God's Peace,
Tessa & Denver

10:14 AM  
Anonymous Lauren said...

I came here to say what I am feeling, but honestly, I don't know how to describe it into words...

A song just came on the radio that says it all. "It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right. I hope you had the time of your life."

I love you, Shellfish. I will always love you, no matter what separates us. Always. I promise you. Soar, Shellfish, soar.

With all my love,

7:57 PM  
Anonymous Rob @ FBC said...

To all of you,

My heart breaks more than you will ever know. Please know that your Boston family is holding you in thought, in heart, and in prayer tonight.

Following Lauren's example, I thought I might share with you what I am listening to at this moment.

"Come here and cry on my shoulder. I'll hold you until it's over. I'll rescue you tonight. Let my arms be your shelter, your hiding place forever. I'll love you more than life."

Rest and know that you have given your all. We love you.

Rob @ FBC

8:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ben and Sophie,

I've been trying to log on and post a comment, but it seems you are so loved, it has flooded the guestbook! I have only taken a moment to look over Shelly's words, but already I am in awe. Thank you, Sophie, for sharing this site with me. I will continue to read her writings as my heart allows.

I just wanted to say that I am honored to have met your entire family this weekend. Although I despise the circumstances on which we have met, I am delighted to have been a witness to the love you have for each other and for Shelly.

Being with Shelly on a daily basis, I have learned many of her favorite things: some thru her, but many via your love for her. I know she likes music, I know she adores scented lotions, and I know she loves you. From an outside observer, it is so very clear that the love runs both ways, even within her extended friends and family.

When I left you all last night, as I walked to my car, all I could do was cry. I am faced with this nearly everyday, but never has another family touched me as your family has. I went to my home church this morning with a heavy heart, spent the afternoon trying hard to not fall apart, and returned to my home church tonight for an evening worship service. The sermon this evening was based on grief and how we all handle it. Basically, it was about giving things/people up to God and how it takes a strong Christian to truly do this.

Ben, Sophie, I could only think of the two of you. During the last few weeks, I have watched your emotions swing from high to low and back again, but I have never seen your faith falter. Your goals have changed, but your faith has remained the same.

I didn't want to take this much room in the guestbook, but I wanted to say this...I know that Shelly is very proud of both of you right now. Your love for her is clear and amazing.

God Bless You All,
Rene' P.
Staff at FHS-W2

8:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To Shelly's family and loved ones,

I just wanted to say that I do not know her personally but have been following her blog for sometime now. I am praying for her and for peace for the whole family.

Blessing to you all,

3:22 PM  

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